FIRST IMPRESSIONS THROUGH A PHOTO

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Why should we judge someone from a photo?

What gives us the right to determine how kind or caring a person is through a single image that was captured. I was with a group of my friends and we were all discussing men to which point one of the girls said she'd started speaking to someone. Instantly two of the girls reacted by saying "wait show me a picture first" obviously to see what he looks like. As if that one photo can tell us anything about him as a person. I love my friends don't get me wrong but it angers me how we base so much of our perceptions on a persons face. I have seen some of the most beautiful looking guys on photos, you meet them and their personality is horrendously ugly. That's not saying every single good looking person is a complete tool because I also know some people have both a beautiful soul along with a beautiful exterior.

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When I was younger I was always drawn to the "pretty boys" and obviously in my state of immaturity I believed that looks were the soul purpose of being with someone. First attraction then you fall in love. But as I grew up and have experienced more along the way I have really learnt that beauty is only skin deep and it doesn't keep you warm at night. Obviously you have to have an attraction for someone otherwise how will you be intimate with them? But speaking from personal experience we all tend to confuse lust with love. I used to love it if my friends all thought the guy I was talking to was "fit". It used to make me feel like "YES he must be so good looking and oh my god he's talking to me". But realistically at the time I didn't even know his middle name or know what makes him cry. Those little things now mean more to me than having all my friends fancy the guy I'm seeing.

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I feel as though we are surrounded by a society that first impressions mean everything. Take tinder for example, a dating app based solely on whether you think somebody is attractive.Do we actually look at the persons bio or description? Or are we too drawn to seeing who's better looking. Where did the good old fashioned courting go? Where a man and woman date for a while to get to really know each other and attraction and love builds. Rather than judging a guy/girl on how well they photograph. Maybe I'm a bit too old fashioned in some respects but I thought I'd share with you my opinion. I'm going to wait and meet someone when I'm meant to meet someone, not that I disagree with dating apps because for many people they have amazing success and find the love of their lives but I would rather get to know someone in person than date them through an app. Probably silly of me because my future husband is probably sitting on tinder right now haha. 

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I have learnt that for me, I understand we are all different but I would much rather have someone with a beautiful heart and soul than be incredibly good looking. But on the contrary I wouldn't be with someone just because they're a lovely person, they'll be my friends not my future husband. I just think that in our society and world nowadays it's so easy to always look for "the best" but who's to say when you get "the best" you won't be looking for something "better". There is always someone better looking, more talented, kinder etc but life isn't about finding greener grass, it's about watering your own.

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I've been single for a long time now and I know exactly what I want, I'm not striving for perfection because that's not realistic. But I want someone who makes me laugh, cuddles me when and holds me close because he can see I'm anxious, someone who has the ability to relax me by just holding my hand and reassuring me. Those qualities my friends to me will not be visible from seeing how good he looks in a Facebook profile picture or how many likes he gets on an Instagram photo. So the next time someone asks you to show a picture, maybe tell them about him/her first and remember: you don't need anyone else's validation other than your own. The only persons opinion who really matters is your own because that is how you find your own happiness.

Being single has given me the time to reflect on the past and I have developed the ability to try and learn from my mistakes. I guess by writing this post I'm attempting to break free from the superficial world were surrounded by. I know what I want and I'm fully content being single until it comes along.

 

What I'm trying to say is that in order to find love, you can't just scratch the surface you have to dig deep and figure out what you truly want from a man/woman. It's easy to find someone you're attracted to, but is that the person you want to marry or have as the father/mother of your children.  

COAT Zara (Sold out similar here) // JUMPSUIT Monki // SHOES Public Desire (Sold out similar HERE) // BAG Wallis (Sold out similar HERE)

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FASHION IMOGENATION X MISSGUIDED 10 SUMMER MUST HAVES

Step right up! Welcome to the creative fairground of Fashion Imogenation, brought to you by Imogen Hudson. Buckle up for the ride of your life and see her top 10 ‘must haves’ for the summer.

 

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1. Colourful Coords- Summer is all about having fun and for me the fun begins in my wardrobe. So pick your favourite colour and stand out from the crowd. Express your personality and be bold. I teamed this blue suit with a soft lace bralet underneath to take my power dressing to a whole other level. SHOP HERE:

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2. Fishnet swimwear - Who says you have to wear swimwear only at the beach? Stay fierce in this stunning fishnet swimsuit with built-in bottoms and bikini. I integrate mine into the sports luxe trend to add that extra bit of glam. Also, if you're ever near a beach, you'll be first in the water because you came prepared; you’re not just a pretty face! SHOP HERE:

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3. Mirrored cat eye sunglasses – Mirror, mirror on the wall these are the fairest of them all. Step up your sunnies game with these beauties that brighten up your outfit and put you in the spotlight. Plus, you'll be the best friend ever when your friends can use your glasses as a mirror.

SHOP HERE:

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4.Satin bomber - The bomber is here to stay and I’m over the moon. With the sheen to stay feminine but the utility edge that keeps it cool, you really do get the best of both worlds. I paired it with these side striped cigarette trousers to stay fleeky and sports chicy (like what I did there?) Sports luxe is one of my favourite trends for summer because it looks effortlessly chic. Even though a lot of thought went into the outfit, we just don’t need to tell anyone!

SHOP HERE:

BOMBER (MISSGUIDED)

 

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5. Slip on trainers – Don’t get me wrong, I’m a heels girl through and through but I carry these trainers with me wherever I go. They’re perfect for those times (that we all dread), when your feet decide to give up on you and you need to quickly change on the tube (without having to tie laces). Plus I feel like I’m walking on a cloud in these babies. LIFE SAVERS RIGHT THERE.

SHOP HERE:

TRAINERS (ADIDAS)

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6. Tie blouse - This embroidered blouse is my perfect pick for this festival season. Not only is it incredibly dreamy but also the tie up detail allows you to wear this how you please. I've paired it with some high waisted jean shorts for a day look and if you want to take this to the evening then simply untie it slightly, show a bit of skin and party the night away.

SHOP HERE:

BLOUSE (MISSGUIDED)

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7. Mac Fix Plus – This product is LIFE. Need I say more? This will cool you down in the heat; protect your make up and fix it in place, act as an amazing primer, freshen your face and make your highlight pop. IMOGENATION TOP TIP: Spray this directly onto your highlight and eyeshadow brushes just before you use it and it will make that pigment immediately glow and stay bright all day long. Shine bright like the diamond you are!

Shop here: MAC FIX PLUS 

 

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8. Rose gold sandals - Say goodbye to Dorothy's ruby slippers and Cinderella’s glass slippers and say hello to these rose gold goodies. They are definitely my colour and a must have party heel for the summer. The amazing thing about them is that they go with everything, just chuck a rose gold bangle or choker on and you're good to go. The block heel also helps for those long summer nights where you think it's 6pm (but really it's midnight, it's just incredibly light still!) These heels have got you covered; you'll be comfy and still have shiny amazing shoes.

SHOP HERE:

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9. Can’t stop this feeling – Justin Timberlake. If this song doesn't make you want to get up and dance then I don't know what will! This is the ultimate summer song, I may not have a convertible car but if I did, I'd have the roof down, blast this tune and drive round acting like I'm the coolest girl in the world. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ru0K8uYEZWw

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10. Seventeen liquid highlighter- This is my favourite drugstore product and I have unlimited uses for it. I prime my face with it before my foundation to create a highlighted base, I mix it in with my foundation to create a dewy flawless all over glow and I dab it on my cheeks with a beauty blender for that soft glow. If this isn’t part of your make up bag then it needs to be.

SHOP HERE:

HIGHLIGHTER (SEVENTEEN)

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DD WITH DP

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For those of you who have just joined fashionimogenation recently you won't have fully grasped my love for double denim but for my honeys who have been following me for a while then you won't be shocked to see that I have posted yet ANOTHER DD look.  

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You will also be able to appreciate my wonderful lovely blogger friendship with Dorothy Perkins. I was lucky enough to be selected to attend a bloggers evening at the Sky Garden and honestly I had such a wonderful night. Incredible company, amazing food and gorgeous views. If you haven't been to Sky Garden you NEED to go. One of the perks of being a blogger is that we are given so many fabulous opportunities to meet new people and I am such a social butterfly that I'm in my element in these situations. 

 

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Actually speaking of butterflies basically the baristas in the Starbucks at Green Park are my favourite people ever. They are so amazing and they always call me butterfly because I'm here, there and everywhere. Plus I'm always in colour so butterfly seems pretty fitting too haha and I flap around 24/7 so maybe that's why! But basically they made me change my name to Butterfly on my app so when I order on the app they know it's me so they can make it extra special haha. Anyway I forgot about this and went into another Starbucks to collect my pre order and they were like "PHONE ORDER FOR BUTTERFLY" I was like "YES THATS ME". Some people looked at me like I'm weird but most people were smiling and laughing because I'm the cutest butterfly in the world haha. The people who looked at me like I'm weird are just jealous cause they're not getting called butterfly haha.

 

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I have an extremely exciting two weeks ahead of me as I have my older brother who is my best friend and my world coming to stay with me in London! YAY! If anyone has any suggestions of where to go then please holla at your girl because I'm open to taking him anywhere and everywhere. Sky garden of course is one of them! 

 

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I hope you like this double denim look as much as me, I love the simplicity of the kimono with the culottes, it allows you to pull your waist in and gives the outfit some body. I teamed it with these incredible wedge espadrilles that tie up. I love tie up sandals because it gives you room to tie them further up your leg or just tie them at the ankle. It makes me feel like I have two different shoes in one haha. I have linked everything below Huns so ENJOY. Love you angels! 

TOP Dorothy Perkins // CULOTTES Dorothy Perkins // SHOES Dorothy Perkins// SUNGLASSES Triwa // BAG VVA Handbags   

MESHIN' AROUND DAY TO NIGHT

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This week I am showing you how I styled up this mesh top and how I transition from day to night simply by changing from trousers to a skirt. As a self confessed shopaholic who wears something once then misplaces it in the ever growing pile in my wardrobe. I travelled to see my brother in Barcelona and only took a limited amount of clothing which was EXTREMELY difficult for me.

 

I took this blazer and top and decided I was going to see if I could simply change from trousers to a skirt and instantly dress it up. Going from sexy singleton in the day to sultry senorita at night and personally I think I NAILED IT. (Please note I'm not being arrogant but honeys you have to give yourself confidence because there are enough people out here that will tear you down so don't be one of them). With both outfits I have taken the classic military buttoned blazer, mesh top and teamed it with a harness bra just to add a hint of sex appeal which we all want.

 

DAYTIME

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Before we talk about the outfit can we talk about the fact this shot was taken in the most beautiful location in Barcelona. It's called the magic fountain and I'm being genuinely serious I actually felt like I was a princess. My poor brother was mortified when I broke into my incredibly brilliant yet cringe Disney song renditions. Not only did the location make me feel like a princess but spinning around in this number made me question WHERE IS MY PRINCE CHARMING. Luckily I had my brother in Barcelona not only to take the pictures but to warn all of the frogs away. No frogs for this princess especially not in this outfit haha.

I'm not normally a fan of white trousers but these have that smart casual edge that I love so I paired them with these gorgeous pointed flat ring detailed shoes. I'm not normally a fan of flats unless they're trainers but these are incredibly classy yet simple so I knew I had to have them. Normally when I'm showing skin on the top half I don't think it's necessary to get the bottom half out too. My legs I mean OBVIOUSLY. So because you can clearly see my bra through this top I thought a simple straight edge trouser would allow me to get away with wearing this outfit to a daytime event. 

BLAZER Boohoo // TOP PrettyLittleThing // BRALET Ann Summers // TROUSERS Zara (SOLD OUT similar HERE) // SHOES Zara (SOLD OUT similar HERE) // BAG Zara 

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NIGHTTIME

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As I mentioned previously it's one or the other angels, we either show a bit of boob or tummy or legs but not all together, you choose which asset you'd like to put on display. So with this evening look I buttoned the blazer up so only a tiny bit of the mesh is shown allowing me to get my legs out with this beautiful a line leather skirt and tassel belt added onto it. I am literally in love with this belt you can wear it so many different ways with tight trousers, a jumpsuit or with a skirt. With a tiny change of one item of your chosen outfit it really is very easy to change from day to night. If I can do it anyone can because I am the QUEEN of wearing an item then forgetting about it all together let alone recycling it for two looks in one.

BLAZER Boohoo // TOP PrettyLittleThing // BRALET Ann Summers // SKIRT PrettyLittleThing // BELT PrettyLittleThing // BAG Zara // SHOES Public Desire (SOLD OUT similar HERE)

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DADDY ISSUES

 Considering its daddy's day today I thought I'd share with you quite a fitting post that centres all around my wonderful, amazing, incredible Dad. This is a topic very close to my heart and I want to document my very own experience of "daddy issues". I've met boys in the past who explain their ex girlfriend had daddy issues and unfortunately they seem to have no clue what that actually means.

 

When I was growing up my dad was extremely overprotective I'm his only daughter so naturally I was his princess. I got away with murder though, if I cried because I was too lazy to walk my dad would carry me on his front, keep me warm and feed me French bread with Brie YUMMMMMY. Anyway when I was about 13 my parents started divorcing and unfortunately because they spent over 25 years together and met when they were 14 it was not going to be a pretty divorce. There was too much love there and love lost for it to be "civil".

 

The divorce wasn't pretty at all and I began to feel as though I was losing my dad. Obviously I wasn't but growing up both my parents spoilt me and my brothers with endless amounts of affection and unconditional love so now they were preoccupied with the divorce and arguing unfortunately they became blinded. I look back now and completely understand why we had to take a back seat and they were just so consumed by heartbreak and emotion that everything else seemed irrelevant. But at the time (as I was living with my Dad) I felt as though he completely shut me out and I honestly craved my overprotective daddy's attention. I didn't realise it would effect me as much as it did but the choices I would then make really conveyed my heartbreak.

 

I truly believe that heartbreak can come from a friend, a family member or even losing an animal not just a partner. At a very young age I got into an extremely serious long term relationship with a guy who was 6 years older than me and he had a child. I then ended up moving out too with my ex boyfriend and his child would live with us 2 days a week. At the age of 17 I became a stepmum. CRAZY? But I don't regret it in the slightest I loved that boy and his little boy with all my heart and I still have a great amount of compassion for him. It taught me so much about life and myself and it made me grow up quicker which I don't think was a bad thing. After that relationship I went into another long term relationship where I lived with him and he was also 6 years older.


Essentially I was craving an older mans affection, craving that protective fatherly role, I wanted someone to control and look after me. Don't you think that's so strange? Ultimately I wanted my daddy's love back so much I actually went out and found a guy who was in fact a dad and then a very controlling boyfriend who treated me like a child. After those two relationships, I realised I had to dig deeper to find out why I was going for men like this? Why did I want to be controlled? And after much deliberation I realised its because of the slow deterioration in my relationship with my dad. I had to hit the nail on the head and I sat down with my amazing Daddy and I broke down. I told him how I felt as though I was lost and I felt as though he had dropped me. He admitted he had "dropped the ball" so to speak and felt as though he had lost his right to father me as he too felt like he'd lost me.


This post isn't about me slating my dad in anyway but it's actually about celebrating how far we've come. My relationship with my dad now is honestly incredible. We speak everyday, he tells me how much he adores me and vice versa, he is my best friend and I tell him EVERYTHING (sometimes a bit too much sorry dad) and I know no matter where I am in the world and no matter what the time is he would drop anything if I needed him. His love is truly unconditional and I am beyond grateful to have what I believe is the best role model in the world as a dad.


Since my relationship has been strong with my dad I have not craved a mans attention, I have become so independent and no longer feel the need to depend on a man. I have been single for 3 years and 4 months and I'm the happiest and most content I've ever been. I truly believe that's because we have a solid relationship. He has taught me that a woman should be respected, loved, given endless loyalty and he has taught me to never settle for anything less than the best. I am fully content with being patient and understanding that timing is everything in life, nothing should be forced.

 

I wanted to write this post to share with you how I was once affected by daddy issues but I have come out the other side. For those of you reading this who may not have a dad, have never met him or don't have a good relationship with him and your mum has bought you up then let's celebrate how amazing she is for doing both jobs. Or for those of you who hasn't got either and didn't have an amazing childhood then YOU ARE AMAZING for being your own role model and bringing yourself up even though you didn't deserve the hand you were dealt. My parents are living proof that you can learn from the mistakes your parents made and honestly the easier route is definitely not the best one. My parents could have lied down and scooped up nothing and treated us the way they were treated but they said NO and made their own luck. It really is possible.

 

There comes a time in this world where we transition into adulthood and it's scary because one day we will be parents and we hope to never make mistakes but it's inevitable that we will. The only thing we can do is our best at everything in life and if even at our best we don't always succeed. You just have to pick yourself up and try again.

 

I want to take a moment to thank my dad Benjamin Hudson for being my rock, my foundations and my whole universe. Thank you for loving me and caring for me in the way that you do so beautifully, for teaching me and guiding me and for protecting me every minute of the day. I love you so much. Happy Father's Day to the daddy's, the mummy's and the kids who are making their own luck and building their own foundations. YOU ARE ALL AMAZING.

BLAZER Boohoo // TOP Boohoo // CULOTTES Boohoo // SHOES Public Desire // BAG Dorothy Perkins (Similar HERE) // SUNGLASSES Forever 21 (Similar HERE

SKINCARE SECRETS WITH FARFETCH

Whether you read my blog or you're just joining me now (you've taken you time huns?!) anybody that knows me knows I am one glam gally. I love experimenting with make up, even when I'm doing my make up I'm sat watching YouTube videos researching how to perfect my winged eyeliner (WHICH IM ABYSMAL AT so any tips please fire my way) or getting that contour on FLEEK. (I've always wanted to use that word but I don't think it works for me). But what I never reveal is my skincare secrets so hold on tight and get excited because today is finally the day where the secrets out. Getting unready with IMOGENATION. 

"You must have a solid foundation if you're going to have a superstructure"

This is the motto which surrounds my whole existence and I also apply it to my skincare routine. Skincare is the number one priority for me because how can you build a good exterior without solid foundations. It's like starting a relationship without really knowing the person, that just isn't going to work my honeys. Don't get me wrong I haven't always been this way, it was only up until about 6 months ago (PLEASE DON'T JUDGE ME) that I would just use facewipes on my face until my best friend who is in fact a make up artist broke down when I told her this. And well done Becky because it worked, Imogen finally ditched the face wipes and not that I had terrible skin before but now it is as SMOOTH AS A GALAXY CHOCOLATE BAR yummmy - shame it doesn't taste like one though. 

Anyway so I've teamed up with my angels over at Farfetch to bring you my top 5 products that are my ESSENTIALS for building those solid foundations, not only for a good base before your make up but also protect your skin for the future. But if I tell you, you can't tell too many people so I'm trusting you to ensure this stays as secret as we can. We don't want everyone having amazing skin like us now do we? (HAR HAR I'M ONLY JOKING DON'T WORRY). 

Also just a quick note, I don't tend to use the same brand for each stage of skincare routine because in my opinion sometimes I find you can repeat a step as some skincare companies have the same ingredients in different products. I also think its good for your skin to get used to having a range of products and properties on so that it doesn't become immune to specific ingredients. That's just my opinion and I'm no expert so don't shoot the messenger haha

Cleanser & Toner - HERE

I have to admit it I may be a 'glam babygal' but I am a lazy one that's for sure. I work nights too and sometimes I get in when the birds are talking to each other so when I came across these cleansing pads that also tone the skin at the same time I felt like breaking into song with the birds. HALLELUJAH! Not only are they quick and easy to use but they are infused with rosewater and mint which are my incredible for your skin. And they smell great too!! The benefits of rosewater and mint are endless but to name a few they have natural anti inflammatory properties which help to reduce redness, hydrate the skin naturally, cleanse pores and tighten the skin. I wouldn't normally recommend '2 in 1' products, the whole Shampoo and Conditioner in one doesn't really do it for me. But these pads actually do both cleansing and toning brilliantly so well done thisworks you may have changed my perception of 2 in 1s. You won't see me using a '2 in 1 shower gel and shampoo' anytime soon though soz about that. 

KEEP THIS ON THE DOWN LOW: I actually use these not only to take my make up off but also as a primer before I put my make up on. The mint contains Vitamin A which controls oiliness and rejuvenates the skin which instantly makes it look bright and feel soft - this always gives me a natural glow to my skin even before I've put my highlighter on. Glowy skin is extremely 'in' at the moment with Kendall Jenner and Gigi Hadid opting for a healthy dewy glow rather than extreme contouring. So we can glow like the moon with our best friends Gigi and Kenken! 

EYE CREAM - HERE

I think potentially one of the reason I don't have a boyfriend was because I never had this product. You think I'm joking but I'm actually slightly serious, I used to wake up with the puffiest eyes and dark circles to the point where I looked in the mirror one day and thought it was halloween. I had apparently adopted the mask from the scream films every single morning. So to all you potential hubbys out there do not worry because I have found the answer to my morning face. This cream literally does everything I want and more for my eyes. It reduces my poor puffy eyes and at the same time gets rid of my horrendously unattractive dark circles. Its extremely light for a cream too which means you don't have to use too much and it also creates a very good base for eye make up and my eyeshadows stay incredibly pigmented on top of it. So gentlemen say goodbye to Imo's tired morning face and say hello to IMOGENS SPARKLING BRIGHT EYES. (I'm aware I'm talking in the third person sometimes I apologise for my weirdness). 

FACE SERUM - HERE 

A wise man once told me: 'prevention is better than the cure'. That wise man was in fact my dad (LOVE YOU BENJI) and honestly I couldn't agree more. People get a sore throat and dose up on paracetamol and ibuprofen but if you looked after your body and took your vitamins honeys then you wouldn't get sick as much (listen to doctor Imo). I believe its the same with our skin, obviously I'm only 23 and you're probably thinking Anti- Ageing serum, IS SHE ALRIGHT?! But essentially if I can prevent my skin from ageing now then why not? I mean who doesn't want to be the hottest grandma after all!! Also, I love my parents to pieces but they have given me quite a large forehead I actually call it my fivehead. And even though they tell me its a 'sign of intelligence' (which I don't doubt at all) it means I have a larger surface area that gives me more chance of having wrinkles. So if you're like me and are EXTREMELY INTELLIGENT with a large forehead or just want to prevent any future lines then this product is the bomb diggity. Honestly not that I have wrinkles already but my skin feels so much tighter since using this, it also helps to smooth out any uneven areas of your skin. Plus it increases your collagen production which makes my skin feel plumper and firmer. Who needs Kylie Jenners surgeon when you have this little beauty?! 

NIGHT TIME FACIAL - HERE

This is my last product but I'm definitely saving the best until last. This is my SAVIOUR, who needs a prince when you have a skincare product that is your knight in shining armour. Honestly I got given a sample of this at a press day a while ago and after using it for two days I instantly went and purchased it. I am quite a cold person and most of the time I wake up with lack of colour to my cheeks, quite a dull/grey face and my lips almost mould into my face because they look so pale. Well that was the old me but since I've been using this product honestly I wake up looking extremely fresh even when I've only had a couple of hours of sleep (I'm young I need to partayyyyy). Over the past couple of years I have really realised how important it is to look after my skin and I would much rather spend money looking after my skin and body than on a night out or a pair of shoes. Don't get me wrong I love both of those things but essentially our skin is always on display 24/7 so we need to make sure that we are protecting it for the future.  I used to begrudge spending money on anything other than material things (sounds silly I know) but now I LOVE skincare shopping and natural supplement shopping, honestly when I look in the mirror and my skin looks fresh and glowing and I feel healthy it makes me feel as though I can conquer the world. So LOOK OUT WORLD - I'M COMING FOR YOU haha. 

If you have any questions or anything please don't hesitate to ask me after all as you've probably gathered I can talk for England so I'm always up for a chat hunzzzzz. I hope this post gave you some useful information and if it didn't then I hope my little jokes made you laugh, if you didn't like it and didn't find it funny then we can no longer be friends I'm sorry.

 Check out Farfetchs full beauty range here, you won't regret it <3 

MY TRIP TO ASCOT WITH WALLIS

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WE HAD OUR OWN BOX AT ASCOT!!!! Sorry for that little outburst I just couldn't contain my excitement. If you hadn't already gathered from the title or that random word vomit that just occurred I was lucky enough to be taken to Ascot with Wallis.

When I read the email I honestly had to take a double look. You know one of those looks where you see someone really fit walk past you and you didn't clock him well enough the first time so you need to look again. Maybe even do a third look over your shoulder to see if he looks back and to see how perky his bum is haha. Or is that just me? Anyway back to business I wanted to share with you my funfilled day at Ascot including the outfit I wore, the food I ate and the fact I WON 70 POUNDS! Yeah thats right babygals, don't get jealous haha it was definitely beginners luck but I only spent 10 pounds and made 70! I chose the names 'angel' and 'prince' because I call everyone random cringy names including babyprince and angelface so I knew I had to choose those horses!

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Anyway I should probably start at the beginning. Most people don't believe me when I say this but I get really nervous before I go to events and press days because its the 'unknown'. Don't get me wrong when I get there I'm loud and very confident but that is my coping mechanism for when I'm nervous. Immediately when I met the girls at the station waiting for our cars to take us to Ascot I instantly felt warm and very comfortable. Throughout the day this continued to progress and I made friends with such wonderful, amazing people. All the girls at Wallis especially were just incredible and I became my weird, extrovert, over the top self within minutes and I'm so grateful for their openness with me!! Sometimes I assess the situation to my surroundings but they were so friendly and funny I just felt so welcome in their company! 

When we arrived we saw our box and it was so lovely, we even had our own balcony woop woop. I have a stomach condition which the girls had already informed the staff about and what amazing food we had. A wonderful three course meal that was suitable for Imogen's annoying broken tummy haha. We then went and made our bets and did I mention I won 70 pounds?! WOOOOOO! Haha shut up Imogen you're all probably thinking.

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Anyway we took some wonderful photos, had a load of laughs, made some lovely friendships and we all looked AMAZING in our Wallis outfits haha. The weather was incredible too which was perfect for everyone not in black which was everyone but me haha. But this bardot style jumpsuit allowed my pits to breathe and there was no room for sweat patches so YAY. My whole outfit is from WALLIS obviously and I've linked it all below for you honeys so we can be twins and dress the same woo yayyyy! This bag is super cute isn't it? Its the closest I'm getting to a Chloe bag for the moment anyway!

I honestly want to take the time to thank not only the girls at Wallis for this amazing opportunity but to thank everyone for their endless and ongoing support on the blogging journey. Its all very new to me but I'm so proud of my achievements in such a short space of time, I'm nowhere near where I want to be but it all takes time. And I'll give it as much time as it needs. I LOVE YOU ALL <3

 

JUMPSUIT Wallis // SHOES Wallis // BAG Wallis

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ARE MANNERS A THING OF THE PAST?

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MANNERS? What are those?

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Since I'm a firm believer that "sharing is caring" I thought I'd share with you one of my BIGGEST pet hates: lack of manners. It seems as though as I get older it's almost as if manners become a distant memory, you hold the door open for someone and instead of a thank you you're greeted with a mad rush of people quick to rush through the door without so much as a smile out of gratitude. 

My parents instilled manners on me before anything else, I remember I was a little Madame at home craving to be centre of attention BUT I always did it politely haha. I would go to people's houses and my parents would come to the door scared of what the parents might say, "has Imogen been well behaved?" they would ask with fear and the parents would always say "what a polite little girl, can we swap?!". To which point my parents would shout YES with no hesitation and that is the day my parents gave me away. NO IM JOKING, I wasn't that bad as a child but I was extremely full on as I'm sure you can all imagine. Luckily time is on my side and I've calmed down a lot since then but I believe it kept my parents on their toes so nobody's complaining (well not on my blog anyway haha). 

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If I go on a date with someone or even for a coffee with a new friend and they lack manners for me that is a DEAL BREAKER. Let's finish this now before its starts, I'm not your teacher or your parent I shouldn't have to tell you when to thank someone, surely it should just come naturally?! I think manners gets you a long way too so men (not boys) if you're reading this then make sure you're polite and you'll be one step closer to securing your princess babygal Imogen haha. Hold the door open, pull my chair out and be courteous. It sounds like I'm asking a lot but that is just me having standards and that is how my dad has shown me a woman should be treated. Bring back the old traditions I say!

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But honestly for me it's extremely rare to find people who has manners nowadays and I may sound like a grandma but it's true. In london hopping on and off a bus is so easy no thanks is given and leaving your tray at a fast food restaurant means somebody will instantly clear it up because people assume "that's their job". Obviously I can understand to a certain degree but perhaps, just perhaps if we thanked that person for doing something whether we have paid for a service or not then it would make their job seem all the more rewarding and doesn't everyone like to feel appreciated?! 

 

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I work as as a hostess on the door at a club and when people leave they say thank you to me, why?! BECAUSE ITS POLITE. I don't really do anything to make their night more enjoyable, I am simply their to smile and take them to their waitress BUT they still say thank you because they've had a good night and it's common courtesy.

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I go into Starbucks and I have my little friends in the one by work, they call me "butterfly" which is the cutest thing ever. I never ever stop saying thank you to them because yes they give me the best coffee frap you can imagine but they are warm and friendly that's what I'm grateful for. For being inviting and friendly, something which seems extremely "abnormal" for English people. The amount of looks I get because I guess some could say I'm "too friendly and too polite" but what even is that?! Is that even a thing? 

I would much rather be too friendly and polite than cold and rude, wouldn't you?! 

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Manners are free and it's actually sad how surprising it is when someone says thank you when you hold the door open for them. It just seems so rare but honestly it makes me so happy and I know when I'm older and I have children I will instil the same values and manners that my parents have shown to me. 

I'm determined to bring back good old fashioned manners because as much as fashion is recycled I'm hoping the morals and values that people used to have also come back round. Until that day comes I'm going to continue my ranting about it and I'm ALWAYS going to be that person to call somebody up on their manners. If I hold a door open for them and they don't smile or say thank you, I shout 'thank you would have been nice' .. and that's me on a good day haha. 

MISSION - make sure everyone in the world has manners. 

Its probably an impossible mission but wish me luck honeys and try and help me on the way. That would be really kind - THANK YOU.

Also while we are on the topic of manners I just want to say the biggest thank you in the world to all of you who have supported me on this very new blogging journey. I really am so grateful for the endless support, love you all <3

DRESS Zara (Sold out similar HERE) // SHOES Public Desire // BAG Zara // NECKLACE Forever 21 //

Photography by Rebecca Spencer

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FINDING MY INDEPENDENCE AND ENJOYING MY OWN COMPANY

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I went to the cinema on my own and I loved every moment of it.

About 3 years ago that sentence would never have even entered my brain, even the thought of going to the cinema alone would have made me feel anxious and sick. When I look back on myself three years ago its like I was a completely different person. I was extremely dependent of people around me, family, friends and boyfriends. I found it nearly impossible to be on my own, from a very young age I always wanted to be the centre of attention and needed to constantly be performing to everyone around me. As I grew up I was still in this mind frame that being alone was terrible and I had no understanding of how to be on my own. What would I even do?! That's what I used to think.

 

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It went from depending on my family to depending on my friends and boyfriends emotionally. It actually made everything extremely difficult because the more dependent you are of a person the harder it was to lose them. It felt like I had lost a limb because I became so needy of them. Looking back now it makes me so sad to think of how I was as a person. I think it's because growing up I was shown so much love from my parents that I always craved that love and affection constantly. I used to be so jealous of my brother because he was so comfortable in his own company but I wasn't in the slightest.

 

Even admitting this is a massive step for me too, I look back on my first long term serious relationship and we lived together when I was very young. But that's because I was so immersed and wrapped up in which is lovely when you're in love but you always need your own time and independence too which I lost all sense of. I was young and he was older so I don't regret the way I was, I learnt so much about myself from that relationship and it really helped me to grow up. I used to not care about going out with my friends because I was so besotted with him, I just lost complete sight of anything else.

 

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Then three years ago the best and worst thing happened to me. I got very ill and was taken into hospital where I was for on and off 5 months, I then continued to go in and out of hospital for the next 2 years. I was finally diagnosed with a stomach condition, at the time I felt like my whole world was crumbling, laying in a hospital bed being fed through tubes and on a constant drip of morphine for the pain. At the time I thought it was the worst thing in the world and I remember the first night they kept me in I cried my eyes out because I was scared and alone.

 

I am beyond grateful that it happened and I genuinely think it was the best time of my life so far because I realised so many things. I had to spend every single minute on my own and I finally found my own independence. YAY FOR ME. Not only that but I really valued my own time and found comfort in my own skin. Having tubes coming out of your nose, your arms and your mouth you couldn't feel any uglier and you think everybody is staring at you. But after getting over my initial insecurities I thought to myself why do I worry about what people think so much? Why do I overanalyse every situation? There is always ALWAYS someone worse off than you and life is too short to worry about what people are thinking. Your life is too precious to have to justify it to anyone else. I'm thankful that I spent so long in hospital because I now really value being alone and I literally do not care what ANYONE (apart from my family and close friends) think. I live my life the way I want to live it and since I realised this I am a million times happier than I've ever been.

 

So going to the cinema on my own is just one of the many things that I do now without a care in the world. My favourite days are actually spent alone, roaming around, getting food (table for one), having my coffee and exploring new places without a care in the world or anyone to answer to. That's not to say I don't value and love my time with my family and friends but I'm extremely content being alone, FINALLY! Once you learn that nobody's opinion matters other than your own and you stop criticising yourself you will feel so emotionally liberated.

 

I tell myself three things I love about myself everyday and that's my being arrogant that is me appreciating what my family gave me and letting go of my insecurities. I am by no means perfect (far from it) and every single person in the world has insecurities but the less you care, the happier you become. It's a fact that there will always be people who judge you, so why not be judged for living your life the way you want to? Rather than being judged for being a sheep or following the crowd. I know which one I'd rather be.

 

Moral to IMOGENS story: Have respect, be loyal and kind but most importantly learn to love yourself and your own company.

 

COAT Zara (Similar HERE) // TOP Prettylittlething // TROUSERS Newlook // SHOES Public Desire // BAG Dorothy Perkins (Similar HERE) // NECKLACE Topshop (Similar HERE) 

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NEVER SAY NEVER? I WILL NEVER ..

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Never say never. If I ever had to tell you one phrase that I hated the most in the whole world it would be that one. I completely understand that I can't foresee into the future and there are loads of things that most probably I can "never say never" to BUT there is one thing that I know that I won't do.

 

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My manager was talking about cheating the other day and I said "I'll never cheat" and he said "never say never". Which I think he later on regretted saying because it started one of IMOGENS rants. SOZ HUN. 

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I'm not saying I'm perfect and that I judge anyone for doing anything they decide to do but I can put my hand on my heart and say from the bottom of my heart and from every inch of my body that I will never do it for reasons which I'm about to explain. I won't go into too much detail as obviously I could probably be here all day continuously writing as it's something I feel extremely passionate about.

 

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Having gone through things in the past I'm fully aware cheating isn't black and white and I'm by no means saying all cheaters are terrible people because who am I to judge? I don't know the ins and outs of everyone's relationships and I understand people make mistakes. I know I'm going to make a lot of mistakes, but that just isn't one of them.

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 I am extremely lucky and I came from an amazing loving family. I honestly had the best childhood in the world and when you're younger you honestly think your parents are super humans, they are bionic and they never make mistakes. But unfortunately when you grow up you realise that EVERYONE makes mistakes and nothing is ever black and white. But I didn't grasp this when I was younger, the word "affair" honestly made me feel as though my whole perfect world as I knew it was crumbling. I watched as my siblings were deeply effected as I was and even though nobody cheated on us watching our parents destroy and hurt each other absolutely killed us. So after witnessing my family break down as a result of cheating I could NEVER ever inflict that pain on somebody else.

 

 

 

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 After the cheating that occurred within my family you think it stops there but it doesn't. Not only does it effect the family but I watched my parents crumble and it makes you grow up extremely quickly. You automatically feel as though you're slowly drowning because you feel helpless. You suddenly become scared that you have to try to protect your parents when all you have ever known is them protecting you. I watched the two people who bought me into this world with endless love and care break each other down because of stupid mistakes and I watched the heartbreak directly right in front of my eyes. That will never ever ever be something I could ever even imagine doing to someone.

 

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The effect doesn't stop there and it still continues to this day. The person who gets cheated on is left with a lifetime of insecurities wondering why they weren't good enough and constantly questioning everything about why someone did it to them? What did they do wrong? And ultimately their trust is ruined - so it has an impact on their future relationships too. Also the cheater is left with the guilt from the pain they caused and they tend to judge people by their own standards as they are constantly worrying it will be done to them.

 

Why would I EVER cause that pain on anyone? It's like breaking your leg and feeling how painful it is and then going out and doing it to someone else. It just doesn't make sense?!

 

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I also think that I am fully in control of my life and all of my actions, so for someone to tell me "never say never" it seems ridiculous that somebody external to my life feels as though they can make that judgement for me. If I know in my heart and soul what kind of person I am then I guess it only matters what I think, but it bugs me sometimes when people say that.

If it ever came to a point in my future relationships where I feel as though I am looking elsewhere I would just leave that relationship and if I had kids with that person I would desperately try to work at my relationship to see where it's going wrong.

 

 

Lies always come out and they eat away at you. It is really not that hard to walk away - cheating is the weak option in my opinion and I'm not a weak person when it comes to something I'm passionate about. So I really am saying I will NEVER EVER cheat.

 

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I'm sure a lot of you out there have certain things they know they just won't do because of certain reasons so stand your ground honeys and stay true to yourself because you can say "you'll never do something". As long as you always stay true to your integrity and stay true to yourself and NEVER compromise your beliefs or morals for ANYONE.

 

 

 

TOP Missguided // TROUSERS Mango // BAG Missguided // SHOES Public Desire   

WEARABLE WALLIS

This week I have teamed up with my huns over at Wallis to put together an outfit that you can wear on a variety of different occasions.  We all need that 'go to' outfit, whether its a job interview, a hot date (if they even exist) or going to a bar with some friends to scout potential yet non existent 'hot dates'. Well look no further because I have answered all your prayers and I am giving you this smart yet sexy outfit choice. I think this outfit gives you the opportunity to wear it for a variety of occasions because it has a classic edge whilst still appearing relaxed and stylish. 

Each item within this outfit has been carefully picked out not just because I loved them (WHICH I DO A LOT) but because they all compliment each other and allow this look to become extremely wearable for so many different occasions. I am breaking down 3 staple pieces: culottes, blazers and mules just to show how the combination of the three statement pieces gives you an easy 'go to' look. 

WHY THE CULOTTES? - If you're not a fan then you need to force yourself to become one because they are an incredible garment to have in your wardrobe. Not only are they incredibly slimming but they are ridiculously comfortable too. They give the essence that you haven't tried at all even though you've been planning this outfit for weeks. I think this is the perfect colour for not only Spring/Summer but Autumn/Winter too, it is bright enough to wear out on those cool summer evenings at the pub or out for a spot of lunch or a bbq in the sun with your friends. But then the rust copper colour also displays those autumnal tones we all know and love. 

WHY THE BLAZER? Whoever said blazers were just for work clearly hasn't been outside of their office enough. I LOVE a good blazer, it instantly smartens up an outfit but teamed with these soft slouchy culottes they compliment each other perfectly. The 'boyfriend' blazer also gives the look a softer edge so you can save your structured blazers for work and wear these soft ones from day to day. 

WHY THE MULES? The big question is why would you not wear mules? Unless you're the lucky ones who have legs for days we all want our legs to appear that tiny bit longer and mules do exactly that. I am obsessed with the snake skin pattern of these mules, they are so elegant and classy which is quite hard to find I think with snake skin or leopard print. So well done Wallis you nailed it! They make your ankle appear slimmer too as they don't cut off the bottom so realistically nobody ever has an excuse to not wear them!  

I hope you love this outfit as much as I do and it helps you figure out your "go to" outfit. If you don't have one honeys, then you need to go get one ... NOW. Okay loveee you bye.  

 

 

BLAZER Wallis // TOP Wallis // CULOTTES Wallis // SHOES Wallis // BAG Wallis // 

Photography by Rebecca Spencer 

LOVE OR MONEY?

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This post is inspired by a conversation I was having with one of my friends the other day. Whereby she explained to me very openly and honestly that she would much rather be with a wealthy man than a man she loved. This is a topic I'm extremely passionate about so I wanted to share my opinions with you.

When I was younger I was so oblivious to the world of money, I may have gone to private school but my parents were very grounded with us as children. Both my parents came from nothing and were fostered so for them they gave me and my brothers an amazing childhood but we appreciated it because they taught us that you have to work hard for everything you have. My parents made sure that growing up we never went without anything but we never got the latest scooter as soon as it came out because my parents didn't think if we got it instantly we would learn the value of it and I completely agree. We would rather have had our amazing family holidays than sit on the latest computer game for hours and to me family time was worth a million materialistic things. I still would rather spend a weekend with my brothers going for a walk to a big supermarket grabbing some delicious treats and watching back to back marvel films all day than go on and buy the newest iPhone. As a child I was spoilt with love but not conditional love where I was loved until I did something wrong or controlled with that love, it was unconditional endless love. 

People laugh at me now because when I'm on the phone to my family we don't just say 'I love you' once at the end of the phone call, we say it a minimum of 5 times. And do you know what? No piece of clothing, no designer bag or pair of shoes will ever amount to that unconditional love that I receive on a daily basis.

I have only had two relationships in my past both were long term and they were two different extremes, my first boyfriend was my first love and he was very content to just float and scrape by as long as he could buy a beer at the pub. My debit card was being used for everything which at the time I was more than happy to do because I adored him. When we moved in together, everything was on a budget and we rarely had much money to play around with BUT we loved each other so much. We could have sat in a cardboard box with nothing but each others company and we would have been content, constantly laughing and talking. However, when we broke up I realised I wanted someone that had more of a drive for their career and expectations. That doesn't mean I wanted him to be wealthy but I am extremely career driven and I always strive to better myself and I find that very attractive in a man when they are determined to be the best that they can be.

Then my next boyfriend was the opposite, he was in fact a footballer (but thats a whole different story), but unfortunately his love became extremely conditional. Don't get me wrong, I loved the boy, admittedly in a different way to my first love but I really did grow to love him in the end. There is no way I can say this without sounding rude but he had an extremely comfortable amount of money at his age which was constantly coming in. However, with that money came power and with that power he felt as though he could use his money to control me. Control what I wear, what I do, where I go and who I see. But it wasn't healthy at all and I didn't want control, or possessions or fancy trips away I just wanted love and an equal partner ship. 

I have seen two different sides of the coin and quite frankly I know which one I would prefer. In a dream world I would love somewhere in the middle, a person I absolutely adored who had a passion for his career and drive for his future. I know that one day I will find it, patience is definitely key.

But one thing I have really learnt from both relationships is that you need to support yourself, financially and emotionally before anyone can come into your life because if you NEED either emotional or financial dependence then theres a lot of complications that come with that. I am determined to make my own money and find my own happiness so that when a guy does come into my life its not because I needed them to its because I want them to. They will be an added bonus into my content life and that is where I feel like some people go wrong. 

Since I have grown up it still shocks me to this day how much other women/men talk about money. I hear girls talk about 'finding a footballer' just so they can sponge off of him for the rest of their life and if anything my ex's job put me off him at the beginning because I judged him for being the 'stereotypical' footballer. It certainly wasn't his job that I was attracted to, I fell in love with his personality and the way that he loved me. Of course, its each to their own and everybody is entitled to want what they want but on what planet is it acceptable to just search for a partner just for their wage bracket? Surely it is so much more rewarding financing yourself than feeling like you are beholding to someone because they are paying for everything. 

I see girls in clubs lingering around the celebrities or rich men in the hope that they can potentially make them their man. Where has our independence gone? LETS GET IT BACK GIRLS.

I also think that when you are with someone for their money, if they ever left you not only do you lose your partner you lose your income and your financial stability which makes the heartbreak so much worse. I appreciate that growing up our parents shape us but I don't believe we can use the blame game any longer, whatever example your parents gave you be it good or bad you can LEARN from it.Learn from their mistakes or their positives and grow on them. Two independent parents or one or neither, whatever cards you've been dealt then make sure you become the QUEEN or KING. Build your own empire together but make sure you have something to fall back on at the same time.Let's do this girls and guys, it's the 21st century after all we can be whatever we want to be, it might not be easy but you CAN do it. So LOVE OR MONEY? You don't have to choose just go work hard and get both YOURSELF. 

COAT Zara (SOLD OUT Similar HERE) // SHIRT Boohoo (SOLD OUT Similar HERE) // CULOTTES Zara (SOLD OUT Similar HERE & HERE) // SHOES Public Desire 

Are you drunk? What are you on?

NO I AM NOT DRUNK, I AM JUST A BIT WEIRD. 

If I had a pound for every person that asked me whether I'm drunk or on drugs on a daily basis I would be a millionaire! I'm writing this post in an attempt to maybe silence a few of the people out there who continue to stare at me in disbelief when I say 'I don't drink'. After asking me if I'm drunk to which I reply 'no', the follow up question is always, 'what are you on then?'. NOTHING?!! I'm just high on life honeys! 

Its amazing how shocked people are when I explain I don't drink, which really baffles me and doesn't that sum up our generation completely. That I am an abnormality because I don't drink alcohol. I don't judge ANYONE for drinking or doing drugs its your prerogative what you do with your life, so why on earth are you judging me?

The only people I do judge are the people who seem disappointed that I don't drink and label me 'boring'. That comment doesn't bother me in the slightest because anyone that knows me knows that I am definitely the opposite of boring, if anything I should probably add a bit of boring to my personality and maybe I wouldn't be so weird haha.

Not that I need to justify myself in any way but there are reasons as to why I don't drink and I don't feel the need to tell these small minded, irrelevant, judgemental people BUT for those of you who actually have a brain cell and aren't so quick to judge I am delighted to share this with you. 

Firstly, just to clarify I have drunk in the past and I have been drunk. BUT my body seemed to hate alcohol and I really believe that when our body tells us something we need to listen to it. I would always throw up even after one or two drinks and I COULD NOT handle my drink, my ex boyfriend used to drink quite a bit and he'd give me a time to start drinking because he knows I would get drunk off one glass. 

Secondly, I HATE alcohol, I used to only drink to 'get drunk' and I remember thinking to myself 'how much of a sheep am I?'. Why am I shoving this terrible drink down my throat just to become intoxicated like everyone else. I realised that instead of following the crowd I just wanted to do what made me happy and drinking wasn't something I enjoyed. I hate fizzy drinks too and most things you mix alcohol with is fizzy, even expensive alcohol like champagne and spirits I cannot tolerate either. Put a pint of apple juice in front of me and I will LOVE YOU FOREVER, a carton of Ribena or glass of Robinsons summer fruits squash over alcohol any day for me. 

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Thirdly, I don't need drink and I believe that is why I constantly get asked the question if I am on drugs. People come up to me in the club when I'm dancing with my bottle of water in my hand (obviously you have to stay hydrated when you're killing it on the dancefloor) and say to me, 'whatever you're on, I want some of it'. If I hear music, I automatically want to move and dance, I do not care who is watching, I do not care if nobody else is dancing I just want to enjoy myself and I DEFINITELY do not care what anyone thinks either. 

Fourthly, my family don't drink so I have never been bought up around it but they're all just as crazy as me! I am a little bit weird, some would say crazy and I am extremely extroverted but does that mean just because I have a personality that I have to either be drunk or high on drugs? NO. 

Lastly, even though I gave up alcohol I went into hospital due to a stomach condition that I have now been diagnosed with for life. The only plus side is that when people continue to annoy me telling me to 'have one drink! Just have one!' I can turn round and tell them 'that one drink will put me in hospital, so better give it a miss honey'. With my stomach condition I actually can't have alcohol so its actually a bit of a blessing.

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It just angers me that society has conditioned people to have the mentality that if you don't agree with what is seen to be 'normal' then you're a weirdo. I am extremely loud, very over the top, overly friendly and one big giant HUMUNGOUS (love that word) ball of love. That is just how I am made and it's what makes me me, but unfortunately some people aren't really used to friendly and inviting people therefore I get labelled a "weirdo" or people question whether I'm drunk. I pity the people who think this because clearly they believe in order to be friendly and genuine, you need to be inoxicated. We are all different and I am not looking for anyone's acceptance I'm just asking that perhaps we should open our minds more to other people and accept that they may be weird. But I wouldn't change who I am for anyone and I LOVE being my weird self! 

I'm not saying that everybody needs drink to have fun, if you like drinking and enjoy it then thats AMAZING for you and continue to do so but please do not drink just to fit in or to be like everyone else because that makes you worse than the paralytic person throwing up outside the club. Don't do something to follow the crowd, be your own person and stick by your morals. Do whatever makes you happy, whether thats downing all the jagers in the world or simply chilling with your water or pineapple juice (I LOVE PINEAPPLE JUICE). Be happy being YOU! 

I made these fishnet socks by cutting fishnet tights at the bottom then rolling them down! They were 2 pounds from Primark, aren't they cute?! 

COAT Boohoo (Similar HERE) // TOP Zara (Similar HEREHERE) // CULOTTES New Look // SHOES Zara (Similar HERE) // BAG Primark (Similar HERE

 

 

Photography by Rebecca Spencer  

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UTILISING YOUR UTILITY

Following on from my previous post "3 ways to wear peg trousers in partnership with Dorothy Perkins (you can view here) I have done it again. I enjoyed styling up a statement piece that much that I thought I'd do it all over again, this time I'm showing you how you can utilise your utility dress. As soon as I saw this dress I knew that I NEEDED it, it was one of those items that I knew I didn't even need to justify adding to my overflowing wardrobe. The colour, the texture, the cut, the style, this dress is just EVERYTHING. If you have a favourite look please do let me know, secretly I have a favourite so I'd love to know if yours matches mine! 

DRESSING IT UP

I would say this look is my "workwear chic". A classic white shirt with the seasons statement flared sleeve, paired with a DIY choker and chunky heeled sandals and you are GOOD TO GO. A polka dot shirt or striped shirt would look equally as cute with this outfit because this colour just compliments EVERYTHING and it's suede, can you tell I love it?! 

The belt around the waist is the vital ingredient in allowing you to change up this outfit, whether you have it fastened like this which gives a tailored and smarter edge to an outfit, or tying it together and leaving it down allows you to instantly make the outfit appear more casual and relaxed.

This 'DIY' choker isn't really 'DIY' but its about the closest I'll get to doing anything that involves DIY haha. How many times did I just say that word? Anyway, I just took a lace from one of my shoes and tied it around, you can make this a simple two banded choker or tie it in a bow like so which I think adds an essence of Parisian chic to this tailored work outfit. TIP: Make sure when you have fastened your piece of string or lace into position, you spray it with hairspray and this way it won't move all day!! Until of course you need to take it off, you won't be stuck with a choker for the rest of your life don't worry huns ha. 

DRESS Dorothy Perkins // SHIRT Boohoo (Sold out similar HERE) // SHOES Dorothy Perkins // BAG Zara

DRESSING IT DOWN

For this look I thought I'd add a pair of adidas originals into the mix just to show you that this beautiful suede dress can look just as good dressed down as it does with a snazzy pair of heels! I love being comfy, I think people always think because they see me dressed up that I don't like to have my casual days. If anything my casual days definitely outweigh my glamorous days. But the more casual days we have then it makes those days where we bring out the contour palette seem even more exciting.  

I've tied up the buckle to make the outfit seem more casual instead of belting it up which gives a smarter edge. You don't just have to wear this with a polo to dress it down but I loved how the roll neck instantly changed this dress and made it seem as though it was part of the dress to begin with. This is my "effortlessly cool" look even though IT DEFINITELY WASN'T EFFORTLESS AND I'M DEFINITELY NOT COOL. I feel as though only capitals could emphasise that to you! But I just think it gives an edge as though you have tried, but you haven't tried too much. That's the key to life isn't it honeys? I mean even the "no make up" look requires make up haha. Just SHHH don't tell the boys! 

DRESS Dorothy Perkins // TOP Boohoo // BAG Missguided // SUNGLASSES Forever 21 // TRAINERS Adidas

GLAMMING IT UP

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Well a little bit of faux fur never hurt anybody!! This is my glamorous look and I feel like I should definitely be in Usher's next music video with this coat on haha. Maybe the dress is a bit too clean cut for him though? But I have tried and tested and I can still twerk in this dress, that's all that matters isn't it angels?! Haha! I mean I could probably whack out the splits in the club with this dress on but perhaps I'd attract the wrong kind of attention. What am I like! This dress still looks amazing on its own and the fur really tops off the look. You can walk into the club with the coat then whack it off, chuck it on the table and get YOUR GRIND ON. (I'm crazy I really do apologise haha) 

Anyway, I hope you can see that with a simple change of shoes and top this dress really can quickly transition from smart to casual to dressy! Hope you enjoyed it angels, if you don't hear from me for a while it's because Usher has read this post and I'm currently in hair and make up getting prepared for my big debut hahah. See you soon Usher <3

DRESS Dorothy Perkins // COAT Missguided (Sold out similar HERE) // SHOES Dorothy Perkins // BAG Dorothy Perkins (Sold out similar HERE)

MY BOOB STORY & MAKING A TIT OF MYSELF

Weird title right? Basically I'm sure I've made you all aware that I LOVE double denim but this week I thought I'd share with you a little story regarding the other kind of DOUBLE D'S. Yes that is right, I am actually revolving my blog post around the topic of boobs. CRAZY. I just thought while I was playing on the pun of loving this DOUBLE D look it seemed pretty fitting that I let you all in on a little secret of mine. 

Its actually quite funny to look back now, but when I was younger I literally was OBSESSED with having big boobs. Not that I'm old now but I mean during my teenage years I felt this constant need to wear push up bras and sometimes even wear two bras - yes I know how ridiculous. I grew up dancing and I never had big boobs, I always had a big bum but I thought to be 'sexy' or 'fancied' you had to have big boobs. I was so insecure that I used to get these bras that actually had full on sand bags in them, WHY? Just so a boy would fancy me? I'm literally laughing slash cringing telling you this story by the way!

 

But wait I'll tell you something even cringier. TOP SECRET: (well it used to be not anymore) my first boyfriend was older than me and after being together for a long time I eventually lost my virginity to him. Anyway for the first two years into our relationship he thought I had MASSIVE boobs haha because not only did I have a bra that made them look massive, I had TWO so my boobs looked GINORMOUS. Secretly though I was as flat as a pancake. I used to look down and want my boobs to be bigger than my ribs haha but they weren't back then. Anyway during the BIG REVEAL, he was excited and quickly ripped off one of my brad and his face was a picture, he looked like "oh there's two?!". In a second the next one was off and he just looked as though he'd been cheated on, he literally looked at me like WHERE HAVE THEY GONE. Poor boy haha he thought he had this gf with massive bazookas but sorry babe just little old me ha. Bless him I just turned to him and said "they're on the floor if you're wondering where they've gone". I was so embarrassed and worried but he actually didn't care and he was wonderful! 

Honestly though my two long term ex boyfriends are one of the reason that I now adore my small boobs. My first boyfriend made me love them because he genuinely loved them and my second boyfriend made me love them even more because he didn't like them. His favourite line would be 'they're fine and if you don't like them I'll pay to change them'. This made me appreciate them even more and I thought to myself, wow, even your comments don't effect me anymore so I must finally LOVE my boobs. YAY. Whats funny is that now I hate wearing bras especially with padding haha, I love soft bras with no underwire they feel so delicate and pretty!

But do you know what? I actually feel so sorry for girls growing up in our generation now because its becoming even harder to not aspire to be like these celebrities who seem to have wonderful big boobs whether thats surgery or not. Whether we like it or not its very evident that there is an extreme amount of pressure we apply to ourselves and I feel as though its getting progressively worse. Plastic surgery seems as easy as changing your phone case or going to the supermarket and picking what kind of body/face you want. I am by no means slating plastic surgery as if you genuinely need it or feel deeply insecure about something then its your own prerogative as to what you do with that. But as a girl now growing up into a woman I want to attempt to share my views because when I have a child of my own one day I want to make sure they NEVER feel pressured to look or be a certain way. We should embrace and learn to love ourselves, every inch of our body because no matter how many times somebody may tell you they think you are beautiful like a relative or a partner or a best friend, if you don't believe it yourself then there words are meaningless and essentially wasted energy on their behalf. 

If you have big boobs then GO ON GALLY but we are all different shapes and sizes so you must remember we are all going to be different. No matter how many things you think you'd like to get done, you'll never look like the girl you want to look like because we all have different genetics. Be happy in your own skin because I promise you, everyone is beautiful in their own unique way, its harder to see your own beauty because you see the same face everyday. There is no point constantly wanting to have the best of everything because there will always be someone you think is prettier than you, has better hair than you, has more money than you and so on. So learn to love your life and love yourself, invest the time and effort you do stalking other people on social media and put it into shaping the life that will make YOU happy. Put yourself first, you've got to wake up to yourself everyday after all. 

COAT Boohoo (Similar HERE) // SHIRT Hollister (Similar HERE) // BODY & BRA Noobi // JEANS Zara (Similar HERE) // BOOTS Solewish // SUNGLASSES Prada // BAG Prada 

3 WAYS TO WEAR PEG TROUSERS

So I have teamed up with Dorothy Perkins to bring you three ways to wear simple peg trousers which you can buy here. I'm a nightmare when it comes to clothes, I have to admit I wear it once and then it sits collecting dust at the bottom of my unfolded pile of clothes (please don't judge haha). I wanted to show to you and also myself that you can take one item of clothing and change the whole outfit by changing your shoes. My dads going to be happy about this one because I'll finally be getting more wear out of my clothes not being conscious of being an 'outfit repeater'. Let me know which outfit you like best and I would love it if you also do '3 ways to wear' with an item of your choice!! Tag me in it if you do angels!! 

IN THE DAY

These trousers are the perfect colour for mixing and matching outfits, they are plain and have a denim look to them which means they pretty much go with everything. I wanted to have a really comfortable and chilled day look but still having a smart edge to compliment the loafers. 

I went with the everyday work chic to tie in with the trousers and shoes so adding a simple shirt and blazer with this oversized clutch seemed extremely fitting. I added the tied bandana around my neck to give some black to the outfit to match the shoes and it added a feature to my neck line. Chuck a shirt on with any jacket and with these trousers and loafers you are good to go for the smart yet dressed down simple everyday look! 

Shop my look here angels:

TROUSERS Dorothy Perkins // SHOES Dorothy Perkins // JACKET Missguided // SHIRT Missguided // BANDANA Missguided // CLUTCH Missguided

 

IN THE EVENING

I felt like JLO in this coat back in her Jenny from the block days. These shoes are the perfect height, they don't make me feel as though I'm towering over people but they give me some added length to my legs which lets be honest nobody ever complains about a little length to their legs!! 

I thought for my dressed up look I would feature this beautiful lace silk cami and YES it is a pyjama top. But who says I can't wear my pjs out? I DO WHAT I WANT haha and I think its sexy too! You can take off this coat and you instantly feel a little bit more seductive, well thats what I felt like anyway ha. Going from day to evening with this look was extremely simple, the lace detailing on the top gives a sense of elegance but also its quite flirty and this fur coat compliments the cream shoes and top perfectly, even if I do say so myself haha. 

Shop this look here princesses:

TROUSERS Dorothy Perkins // SHOES Dorothy Perkins // CLUTCH Dorothy Perkins (SOLD OUT SIMILAR HERE) // JACKET (SOLD OUT SIMILAR HERE) // TOP ASOS

 

ON THE WEEKEND

 

These shoes are too die for aren't they? And how sexy do they look with the fishnets!! I think this outfit is ideal for a trip to a cool bar on a friday night because even though its more dressed up than the other two looks, its not 'too dressy' and that is what I love about these trousers, they make me feel quite cool and I'm too much of a weirdo to ever be 'cool' haThe sheer detailing on this top teamed with the fishnet socks instantly dresses these trousers up and I think is quite a seductive look but with the combination of the tailoring of the trousers and the fitted coat it also maintains a smart edge.

I would love to know which one of my looks is your favourite so be sure to let me know! It just goes to show how a simple change of shoes and tops can take a classic pair of trousers from day to night to weekend extremely quickly! 

Shop this here hunzzzz:

TROUSERS Dorothy Perkins // SHOES Dorothy Perkins // TOP Pretty Little Thing // COAT Zara // BAG Zara // BRALET Ann Summers // SOCKS ASOS // BELT Boohoo

 

Who run the world? GIRLS who empower each other

Women should empower other women 

This week I am talking about GIRL POWER something is disappearing rapidly. This post is quite fitting with this outfit this week because since I have become a blogger I have had the opportunity to work with some amazing companies but what is most important to me is the relationship between myself and the company. Its extremely hard to get to know someone over emails but when you are working so closely with the company to represent their brand and yourself you have to build a working relationship. The reason this outfit is fitting is because the two girls who I worked with to bring you this outfit from Dorothy Perkins and Public Desire are two of my favourite relationships I have built so far on my blogging journey. I am so lucky to be able to communicate with them on a blogging level but also their support is an amazing example of what I'm writing about in this post: women empowering other women. 

Obviously when I was younger I was immature and used to bitch to other girls like we all did, it was harmless and mostly stemmed down to jealousy. But most people will never admit that? I wouldn't be human if I didn't admit I have made mistakes and truly I think this is one of my biggest ones. Since I have grown up and had relationships and friendships I have seen just the extent of how apparently other girls don't seem to have each others backs anymore.

Reality TV is a pure example of this. Girls don't seem to understand 'girl code' anymore and they either choose a guy over a girl, slag other girls off, allow a guy to come between them, or sleep with someones boyfriend which is NOT OK. Its so horrible to see how these people on social media get hurled with abuse for no reason and most of the time its by girls just sitting behind a computer being disgustingly horrible. I saw recently that one of the little mix girls Jessie broke down on stage when she was talking about body confidence. She has been targeted majorly by the media and by people on social media. I can look past the fact that the media target people unfortunately its the way they make money and sell papers which I don't agree with at all but as a society we should stick together and that way these people would be able to feel more comfortable in their skin. What kind of person actually enjoys making other people feel rubbish about themselves? Whoever does that then you need to look at yourself as a person because if I was you I wouldn't be able to sleep at night, I would feel terrible. 

I look back now and realise that when I was younger I allowed my insecurities to become jealousy and to me jealousy is the ugliest trait in a person. We ALL have insecurities, every single person in the world has an insecurity whether it be a physical insecurity or an emotional insecurity. But I see it all the time and it's becoming too apparent that people seem to try to put others down to feed their own insecurities. This is so unhealthy and it will never make you feel more secure in yourself. I should know, I used to do it. I used to look at my ex boyfriends exes and try to find what were their negative points. WHY? Because I'm a psycho hahaha. No! Just because I am a girl and unfortunately when we feel insecure we feel the need to project that onto someone else instead of trying to tackle our own insecurities head on. 

Once you start to work on your insecurities and not channel them in the wrong manner you will feel like a better person instantly. Not that I am over my insecurities but I handle them in a completely different way now. If I see a beautiful girl I don't feel rubbish in myself, I look at them and think OH MY GOD YOU ARE UNREAL and 9 times out of 10 I'm that weirdo that will actually go up to them and tell them. I was in Zara the other day and I saw this girl and I was literally taken aback with how beautiful she was, the poor girl was standing in the queue and I just strolled over and was like I'm sorry if I keep staring, you're just so gorgeous!!! She was really flattered and it made me feel so happy that I had made her smile.

What did that cost me? Nothing! Did it take up loads of my time? No! So why is it so hard for people to give out compliments? It is the most rewarding feeling making other people feel happy. I honestly respect girls so much who actually make the time to compliment others and smile at each other when they are out and about. What I'm trying to say is that us girls should stick together, we shouldn't slag each other off, we should be praising each other!! 

What also bugs me is that the person you are slagging off and saying unkind things about has done absolutely nothing to you and if she has done something hurtful to you then don't waste your time slating her, rise above it and be a better person. Its very empowering when you let go of anger, hurt and hatred and realise all that does is make you bitter. Don't be bitter be better! Its also really intimidating when the shoe is on the other foot and you walk into a room and you feel as though people are talking about you especially girls as they tend to make it really obvious. I would never, ever want to make someone feel intimidated because I have been put in that situation and it is not nice at all. One of my biggest mottos to live by is to treat others how you would like to be treated. Why would you ever make someone feel the way you hate feeling? It just doesn't make sense.

What makes me really sad is that because I am quite over the top and extremely complimentary to people, most of the time people think I'm being 'fake' or 'sarcastic'. How depressing is that? I can't be kind to people without them assuming the worst, but that is because unfortunately it seems to be quite rare now that girls are actually being kind to one another. We all have insecurities so why would you spend your time picking apart somebody else's insecurities because its not going to make you any prettier, any skinnier or any nicer. Instead it actually has the reverse effect because being nasty and jealous is a really unattractive quality. 

What I'm trying to say is that of course you have things you'd like to change about yourself, you wouldn't be human if you didn't feel that way BUT don't let your insecurities become jealousy. Feed your self esteem by building someone else's, even if its only one compliment a day I can guarantee you the reward will be worth it. I honestly am such a happier person now I have grown up from being a child and now appreciate how women should stick by other women. Otherwise how can we preach that men should treat us well when we are not treating each other well. 

Just remember: Who runs the world? GIRLS. 

 

TOP Dorothy Perkins // TROUSERS Dorothy Perkins // SHOES Public Desire // BAG Dorothy Perkins (Sold out but similar here) // SUNGLASSES Dorothy Perkins

Haters gonna' HATE - Say NO to bullying

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Lesson learnt: Not everybody is going to like you.

I saw a terrible video this week of a girl being beaten up by people that were bullying her and it obviously was deeply distressing, but it really hit nerve deeply with me.

I was bullied in school and that comes as quite a shock to most people because I come across as a very confident person who wouldn't stand for anyone trying to intimidate or bully me. But when I was younger I was always trying to please people, all the time. I never wanted anyone to dislike me and I never wanted to upset anyone and I wish I knew then what I know now. 

The stuff these girls did to me was unthinkable and even boys got involved, it was a private school that was all about who had the most money. The school did not want to know, they buried their head in the sand because they couldn't admit bullying was happening at their prestigious school. After months of suffering and my parents having to walk me into my lessons, I was so ill that the doctors actually signed me off school and said that I couldn't go back because I was so unwell. 

I used to blame myself and think the reason I was bullied was because I was a weak, pathetic poor excuse of a human. I thought I was ugly, fat, worthless, and all the things they told me on a daily basis. I honestly began to think what was the point in living. Reading that back now makes me actually laugh thinking about a time that I allowed these awful people to make me feel terrible about myself and about my life. For a long time I held onto hate and thought about how one day they'll get their comeuppance. And then I realised, hating myself and hating them was never going to bring me happiness. In actual fact, their own karma was living with who they really are, a bully.  

I began to realise that in actual fact I didn't hate them, I pitied them. I pitied their lack of morality and the fact that they were that insecure they feel the need to put others down in order to make them feel better. What kind of existence is that? 

I suddenly realised after a long time of feeling insecure that they were then winning. And nobody was going to take control of my life, except me. After allowing a few people to walk over me including friendships and relationships I finally said NO. I will no longer play the victim and cry about how confused I was that somebody could hurt me or treat me badly. I took a leaf out of my beautiful older brothers book and learnt to not really care what people think. I realised it is not a reflection of you how somebody treats you, but it’s a reflection of them.

I felt like this weight had been lifted off my shoulders, after spending my childhood and teenage years searching for people's approvals I finally realised the only one that really mattered was my own. And my family of course. 

There will always be people who dislike you, but if you surround yourself in positive people who care about you then these people will be non-existent in your life. I have 3 best friends including my older brother who is my number one and that's all I'll ever need. And 3 friends for me is more than enough, obviously I have other friends but not people I trust with my life.

I used to be in the "popular" crowds at school and you soon realise that each week at school one person of the group was pushed out one by one, segregated by the ring leader. None of those girls are friends with each other now, if anything they are still searching to be popular which is a very lonely existence. You only need one friend in this world and yourself. You should be your own best friend and depend on yourself because at least if you let yourself down, you can forgive yourself and learn from it. 

 

I would rather have one friend for the rest of my life than surround myself in people who don't actually really like me. What I'm trying to say is, there is no point spending the rest of your life searching for people to like you or you can learn to love yourself and then the approval of other people will seem completely irrelevant because unfortunately there will always be someone who doesn't like you not for any reason other than their own insecurities. To all of those people who dislike me, I want to thank you for making me appreciate my true self and who I actually am. To my family and closest friends I ADORE you and thank you for your never ending support. 

JACKET Missguided // JUMPSUIT Handmade from VerityAnn // TASSEL BELT PrettyLittleThing // SHOES Asos // BAG Missguided // HAIR Mark Hill Interchangeable Wand 

Photography by the amazing Rebecca Spencer - visit her website here

 

 

Slow and steady wins the race

Before I write a massive essay I just wanted to share my love of this outfit, the blue and creams are perfect heading into the warmer months. The colour palette of this outfit reminds me of a lovely sunny day at the beach, the blue of the sky and the soft cream colour of the sand. These trousers have to be the most comfortable pair of smart trousers I've ever owned and I love the shape of them, they are extremely flattering on the leg line. 

This week I thought I’d talk about a common topic that comes up a lot for me and that is my relationship status. I am single and I have been for over 3 years now and I wanted to clear this whole taboo surrounding being single. I sometimes feel as though people either think the reason you are single is you’re a wild child and want to live the ‘single life’ or you are just too fussy. But whenever someone asks me ‘why are you single?’ my reply is ‘out of choice’. I’m not saying this in an arrogant way because this applies for everyone, if I wanted to be in a relationship I could be, every single person could easily have a partner if they wanted to but it doesn’t necessarily mean that person would be right for you. You have to make sure your standards are never compromised out of your the 'need' to be loved. People think I'm fussy but I have been on my own long enough now to know exactly what I want and I won't settle for anything less.

After coming out of two back-to-back long relationships I wanted to take a step back and find myself. My family branded me ‘the relationship girl’ and I was a different person back then. I was needy of someone to depend on but I was just a young girl who wanted the ‘disney’ fairytale. I still do obviously, who doesn’t? But I know that my life is on a journey and when the time is right it will all fall into place. I vowed to myself that I would be single for a minimum of a year and not even go on a date and I did just that, just so happens that single period has now been over 3 haha. But I chose that, I took control of my life and decided I want to find out who I am as a person, I felt as though I was so depend of someone else to make me happy I didn’t really know what even made me happy anymore.

 

Too many people jump into a relationship because they fear being alone. I should know I did just that, I came out of a long-term relationship and I was heartbroken. You build your whole world around someone and when its gone you feel as though you’ve lost everything but you haven’t, trust me. I felt the need to find a new relationship to fill the void that I had been left with and when I jumped into a new long-term relationship I was beyond confused. I didn’t allow myself breathing time and a chance to find my own independence. I don’t regret having a ‘rebound’ relationship because it made me the person I am today and it has taught me so much but most importantly it has taught me that I needed to find out how to be happy on my own. After all it really is true, if you don’t love yourself, how can you expect anyone to love you? And not just that but once you find your own happiness you will feel less dependent of someone else providing your happiness for you.

I was extremely dependent of my first boyfriend but I was younger than him and it was my first ever relationship, my first ever anything. I felt as though I ‘needed him’ and you should never ‘need’ anyone. I’m not saying it’s not nice to have someone to depend on but you have to remember, YOU are strong enough to depend on yourself. That is an extremely attractive quality when a person knows who they are, knows what they want and knows that they WILL get it.

What I’m trying to say is that you should never EVER settle out of fear of being alone. Some of the time you can be in a relationship and feel just as alone. Trust your instincts and KNOW YOUR WORTH. Some of my friends come to me and explain they only feel happy when they aren’t arguing with their partners but nobody should ever have the ability to control your moods. I appreciate when you love someone you have to work at things, relationships aren’t easy nobody ever said that but I feel as though people hang onto their relationships for the wrong reasons. They either don’t want to be alone or don’t want to see their partner with someone else or they just feel as though they are nothing without their partner. What you have to remember is that there are 7 billion people in this world so that one person isn’t the only person in the world that will make you laugh or smile or give you butterflies just by looking at you.

Once you find your own independence and happiness you will be able to give your true self to the next person you fall in love with. I am still discovering new things about myself everyday and that excites me so much. I feel as though the older I get the more I begin to look back and learn from everything I’ve been through. Even when I look back at difficult times, there is no upset or pain anymore, I have taken valuable lessons from everything I’ve been through and I’m appreciative of those lessons because they are shaping me into the woman I want to be.

Just remember to trust the journey and timing that your life is giving you, don’t try and rush to be at someone else’s pace. When its right for you, you will find whatever it is you are looking for. Everybody knows the tortoise always beats the hare. 

TOP New Look // TROUSERS Pretty Little Thing // BOOTS Public Desire (SOLD OUT HERE IN BLACK) // CLUTCH Pretty Little Thing // CHOKER Pretty Little Thing

Pick yourself up and try again

So this week it was my birthday and I was of course beyond excited. But it was also quite a sad day for me too. I have always loved acting, that’s what I did my degree in and recently I was put up for my first film role. It was only a couple of lines and a few scenes but it was an amazing role to play alongside a well-known and talented cast and an extremely successful production team. I couldn’t help but scream when I got the audition through and I went along to the audition, which I actually thought, went terribly. I didn’t hear anything so I assumed I didn’t get it, but low and behold I got a call saying I got it. I was in shock and I only wanted my family to know because I felt like it was too good to be true.

Anyway they picked me up and took me to the fitting, I kept pinching myself thinking IS THIS EVEN REAL. Anyway the fitting went well and they were all very friendly. Then two weeks later I received a call saying that they were absolutely devastated to tell me that the film is going down a completely different route and they unfortunately are cancelling me. I honestly couldn’t believe it, all of my fears and worries had come true. I asked them for some feedback so I could improve upon anything and they said ‘Imogen we could tell you 10 times or a million times it was NOTHING to do with you. We would be honest with both you and your agent, honestly we absolutely love you but that character is not being used anymore’. I got off the phone to them and I was meant to be seeing my friend that day so I called him immediately and cancelled. I felt so rubbish about myself and genuinely felt as though I was going to disappoint my parents even though they are the most supportive, loving people in the world.

I sat there questioning my acting ability and then after about 15 minutes I thought to myself, crying in bed and feeling sorry for myself isn’t going to get me another role in a film? I replayed what they said to me in my head and then remembered they had said something that I wasn’t focusing on. They said ‘Imogen if there is anything we have coming up in the future we will definitely use you’ – the fact they know me by my first name is a positive in itself. Not only that but these companies are brutally honest with actors and I truly believe them when they said it wasn’t about me because after all why would they have recalled me and chosen me to get the part in the first place?

I called my friend back and said let’s meet and I put some make up on and pulled myself together. After all, I chose to be in a very competitive industry and one that is full of rejection left right and centre, so if I can’t handle it now then I shouldn’t be in it. I also thought to myself they CHOSE me in the first place, out of all the girls that auditioned I got it. I may have lost it but I got it to begin with and that shows that I do have talent. I was going to get out of London and head over to my mums but then I realised I am an adult and as much as I adore my mums support, I have to stand on my own two feet. That day I felt so empowered and I felt so strong because I got out of bed and attacked the rest of my day.

The reason I’m sharing this personal story with you because rejection is something we have to face all the time throughout our lives. Whether it’s a job, in a relationship, friendships and it is so easy to focus purely on the negatives and to wallow in self pity but I’m trying to iterate that you don’t need to do that. Maybe that job wasn’t right for you and maybe that partner wasn’t the one for you either. Just because we feel rejected doesn’t mean we have to sit down, you have to get back up and prove to yourself how much inner strength you really do have. We all have it in us and I promise you when you find it, it’s the greatest feeling in the world. If there is a negative situation, try to find a positive somewhere amongst the pain, I promise you it will be worth it. Remember you are not the only person who has ever been rejected and it’s not about how you fell down, it’s about how you pick yourself up. 

COAT Boohoo (Similar HERE) // SLEEVELESS BLAZER Missguided (Similar HERE) // TROUSERS Missguided // CORSET Ann Summers // SHOES Shoegeeks // BAG Michael Kors (Similar HERE)